Everyone, that is, everyone reading this post, everyone who we know, and everyone we know of have flaws. Of course, we have them to different degrees, and as we all have a biased perspective of ourselves, we’re not always our keenest critic. For instance, we tend to judge ourselves by our intentions, and others by their actions.
However, it’s totally fine to be flawed provided those flaws aren’t hurting anyone or they’re not denigrating the quality of your life. That said, flaws are there to be unveiled and worked on, and that can be the task of a lifetime. It’s important not to see ourselves as a robot that needs fixing, but a human that can learn, grow and become better as time moves on.
It’s absolutely fine to be flawed. It’s not always fine to stay flawed. Of course, this latter point is important to consider with sensitivity, as not everyone has control over their flaws even if they are noticeable. Past traumas and character issues can be hard to get over. But everyone has hope, and we should believe ourselves able to grow and change. In this post, we’ll discuss a few measures for identifying and turning our weaknesses into strengths. Let’s get started:
Accept Your Flaws
First, we have to accept that our flaws exist. Note that this isn’t the same thing as just throwing our hands up and saying ‘well, I’ve always been that way.’ It might be that due to a terrible and abusive relationship you have suffered, you find it hard to trust new people in a romantic setting. Is that a flaw? Perhaps, but it’s not your fault. Accepting it’s something you need to work on, however, can help you avoid falling into all-or-nothing beliefs and limiting yourself from experiencing something new. It also lets you know there’s work to be done, which can help you think twice about rushing into a new relationship immediately.
Prioritize Those That Need Attention
We all have our strange character quirks and idiosyncrasies. That’s fine. However, it might be that some are worse than others, and so prioritizing that you hope to work on is important. Think of this as a big ball of yarn, and you’re trying to find the thread that will help you unravel and neatly store it. This might involve going to therapy and talking about an issue that has stayed with you since childhood. Step by step, piece by piece, we can grow and improve without feeling totally overwhelmed by the task.
Seek Worthwhile Help & Test Yourself
Seeking worthwhile help is important, because it helps you gain that structural support and impartial aid necessary to starting over again. Depending on your needs, the worthwhile help and professional aid you seek out could be different. In some cases, it might be that putting yourself into rehab is important. In other cases, working with a counselor to help you unpack past traumas or difficulties can aid you. From there, you can take it step by step, and begin to test yourself anew. This process is not easy, and it’s not immediate, but you’ll look back with gratitude.
With this advice, we hope you’ll realize that it’s absolutely fine to be flawed, because you’ll be on your way to resolving them.