When you have children, you will often dream of what they might be, or what they might achieve, in their life. But the truth is, you’ll never know who your child will be or what their life goals will be until they grow up. Nevertheless, you do want to guide them on their journey to a successful life – it’s only natural!
As a parent, it is hard to sit back and watch your child struggle with issues in their life. But of course, every person on Earth has struggles that they deal with, and your child will be no different. There are tough aspects to everybody’s life, there’s no getting around it.
If you want to help your children succeed in life without being a ‘helicopter parent’, you have come to the right place! Here are four simple steps to aiding your children’s success, while allowing them to be their own person and make their own decisions.
Encourage them to be brave and try new things.
When you have a child for the first time, there is a huge temptation to wrap them in cotton wool and shield them from the dangers of the world. Humans are built to have varied, full, and refreshing lives – so although letting your kids go off into the world on their own is frightening, you need to let it happen. In fact, you should encourage it! Encourage your kids to travel (safely), try new foods, meet new people, experience different jobs, and ultimately have a life full of meaningful experiences.
If your child opens every door and grabs life by the horns, they are more likely to be a successful and happy person when they do find their calling in life.
Provide a calm, steady base for them to rely on when life gets tough.
One of the most important hats you wear as a parent is the ‘rock in a lightning storm’ hat. Your child will inevitably encounter turmoil in their life – whether it’s a big decision, such as which college to apply to; a breakup of their first romantic relationship; or even something more intense, like a death in the family. As their parent, you might be the first person they’ll get angry within an argument, but you’re also the first person they’ll call when something bad happens.
If you provide a steady base for your child to return to when life becomes rough, you will help them lick their wounds until they get back on their feet. Ultimately, this will aid them on their journey to a successful and happy life.
Be supportive of their decisions, even if it’s not what you envisioned!
There’s nothing like an unsupportive parent to really dampen a person’s spirits, right? Even if they don’t show it, your approval and support mean everything to your child.
We all have visions of what our child might do or be when they grow up, but your child is their own person, and may have different plans for their future! As a parent, it can be tempting to try to steer them in the direction in which you had intended them to go; however, you need to be supportive even if you’d have made a different choice in their shoes.
Use your life experience to help them go in the right direction.
Although you should encourage your child to be independent, you should also use your life experience to help your kid learn from your mistakes. As a parent, sometimes it’s best to leave them to make their own mistakes; equally, though, often you can provide insights they might never have thought of.
In addition, your life experience can help your child gain connections in the world and achieve great things. For example, if your child is applying to college, you could put them in contact with a professional in MBA admissions consulting in order to give them a fighting chance at success. They may never have sought that help on their own, but with your guidance, they will be better prepared for what’s to come.
You want to be involved in your child’s life as they reach maturity and become an adult. Yet at the same time, you wish for them to be an independent soul who can make their own decisions and work on their own life goals. How do you strike the balance?
By using our guide to helping your children reach their life goals, you’ll find a way to walk the line between being a parental leader, and knowing when to step back and let your kids make decisions for themselves!