Doesn’t it feel like you and your partner married each other yesterday? Oh, how time flies! You’ve managed to operate as a couple for so long, and you now have little ones in the picture. If you feel like you’re struggling to juggle everything, you’re not alone. It’s a whirlwind keeping everything together, and we hope our tips for balancing marriage and parenting can provide you with some encouragement.
Naturally, we want to do everything we can to please both our spouse and kids, and eventually, we start feeling exhausted. Don’t let this get the best of you—many people are eager to help out. If your parents or in-laws graciously offer their assistance, take it. The help provides you with an opportunity to recharge, and this way, you can prevent yourself from burning out.
Compromise on Parenting Philosophies
As the saying goes, it takes two—meaning you must make parenting decisions as a couple. One parent may feel strongly about their perspective on a particular issue, while the other may completely disagree with that view. The two of you must come together. If you aren’t on the same page about parenting philosophies, this could hurt your relationship—and even confuse your children in the process. It’s better to settle on philosophies and stay consistent with enforcing them.
Decide On a Family Schedule
Fortunately, you can create a schedule that accommodates every family member. Take dinner time, for instance—you can spend time with both your kids and your partner. No one gets left out. You can also block out chunks of time for play, dates, and other activities that satisfy everyone’s needs. Without a clear schedule, you can’t evenly divide your time.
Put Your Spouse First
Many people fall into the trap of putting their kids before their spouses. Your kids are important, but you should consider why you wanted to raise children with your partner in the first place. You both wanted to start a family together, so consider revisiting how you built your relationship. You can also explain your roles as both a parent and a partner to your kids. They must understand that, sometimes, you want to spend time with your spouse, and other times, you’re ready for dedicated hangout times with them. You shouldn’t feel guilty about doing your best to meet your needs.
While these are just some tips for balancing marriage and parenting, we don’t have all the answers. It’s up to you to set the tone for yourself and your family. We wish you the best of luck!